4 Cam Sex Secrets So You Can Go the Distance!

Met someone awesome on the site? Want to get closer but distance is a problem? Lucky for you technology has your back and can bridge the gap between you and your online hotty.

While getting wet and wild over the web can feel a little weird at first, it can be really really hot. So with the above in mind, here a some cam sex secrets to making your experience the best it can be.

Be Bold!

The biggest mistake people make while having cam sex is blowing the mood by showing their insecurities or inexperience and saying things like, “I don’t know what to do”, or “I’m feeling shy”. There’s nothing quite as unsexy as a lack of confidence. If you’re feeling bashful or can’t think of anything sexy to say, here’s a hint: say nothing at all, and let your body do the talking.

Build Momentum

Cam sex is just that—sex. This means that an arousing build up of foreplay is just as important as it is during physical intercourse. Of course you need to adjust your turn on techniques accordingly (more on that later), but don’t make the experience seem unnatural or chore-like by saying things like “should we start now?” Enjoy a glass of wine together, have some banter, and fan the flames of desire with simple physical compliments and flirting.

Get Creative

While no substitute for the real thing, you might surprise yourself with how intense a session of cam sex could be with a little creativity. Introduce a vibrator or other toys to your cyber sessions and supply each other with arousing visuals while you experience some more-than-arousing sensations. Be sure to also use your toys to experiment with point-of-view positions and angles and communicate with one another to establish a mutual rhythm and pace.

Fantastic Fantasies

Since cybersex stimulates your imagination, why not take advantage of the opportunity to further explore some role-playing fantasies and fetishes? Before initiating a cam session that you intend to turn frisky, slip on a sexy role play outfit under your clothes. When the timing’s right, slowly reveal your outfit and apologise you can’t be there to pick their jaw up off the floor.

While you may be unable to make a direct physical connection, the psychological preview that you share via cam sex can be out of this world. Technology has shown us that an internet connection provides a far kinkier-than-expected alternative to sex when distance is an obstacle.

To Swing or Not to Swing - Overcoming the Green-Eyed Monster

Jealousy is an obvious issue that you and your partner need to address before you even begin swinging. Not dealing with this potential problem beforehand will certainly come back to bite you in the rear - and not in a fun way! If you are the incredibly jealous sort (particularly about sexual infidelity), swinging might not be your bag and you should not feel ashamed or upset that you become jealous about the emotional and sexual ties to your spouse or committed partner.

Almost everyone feels jealousy on some level, and those who are prone to jealousy need to stick to a monogamous relationship. In fact, monogamy (as long as affairs are excluded) is made to reduce or even get rid of jealousy since you will have complete and total access to the sexual and emotional aspects of your partner. On the other hand, if you have such a deep trust with your partner that you are above jealousy and desire to enhance your sexual experiences with each other by including additional partners, you might want to look into swinging.

While many people are turned on by the thought of imagining their partner having sex with someone else, the actual act of seeing it happen can turn people off. Even for those who have decided to take up swinging, the first time you see your partner with another it can be a little jarring despite the fact that you might not be “jealous” in your own terms. The best way to adjust to these early stages of swinging is to take things slowly.

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Lay down ground rules with your partner that you both can agree on and stick to them. It is very common for couples to begin with “soft swinging” (where the actual intercourse is kept strictly with your partner while other actions happen with others) and then possibly work up to fully open swinging. Still, many couples find that soft swinging works best for them and choose not to upgrade. Do not be afraid to back things down if you start to feel uncomfortable or extremely jealous.

Another key element of swinging is to talk about your jealousy if you have it. Grinning and bearing it is NOT a good way to handle things. Stuffing it down is yet another bad idea. Successful swinging is built on the concepts of trust and confidence in your committed relationship. This isn’t to say that you do not have trust or confidence if you feel jealous about your partner being with someone else. It just means that if you feel that you and your partner could benefit from the experience of swinging you need to make sure the trust and confidence is already there. If you think that swinging isn’t your scene, just enjoy the trust and confidence you have and be happy in knowing not all relationships are like yours.

It does help to still set up boundaries no matter what level of swinging you happen to be at. Being intimate with your committed partner is still a special experience and is one to be savoured. Having boundaries with those you choose to swing with will help keep things intimate with you and your partner so that the natural jealousy you feel will be sated with the knowledge that you still have special access to your partner.

Happy swinging :-)

8 Reasons to Flip Over and Indulge in Some Doggy Style Bliss

We all have our favourite positions, and the ones on top (har har!) may differ when surveying the sexes. Doggy style may not be the first position we try with a new partner — or even a not-new partner — but there's a lot to love about it. Generally, it's a position that guys are considered to be way more into than females, but it doesn't have to be that way. So how do you make doggy style better?

Whether you are turned on by being a bit dominated, letting yourself surrender, or just knowing that with doggy, your partner can hit all the right spots — and deeply too — it's absolutely worth giving this position a try.

For doggy, the angle of his thrusting is going to often dictate how good this feels for you, so give your partner a lot of encouragement along the way and let him know what feels right and what can be adjusted. And make sure to bring some cushioning, being on all fours can feel awkward after a while.

Want to kick it up another notch? Bring a vibrator in for some additional fun and slip it down there — it'll stimulate both of you while you're going at it.

Go Deeper

If the person being penetrated has a vagina, this angle can actually move how the cervix sits in relation to the vagina, allowing the penetrator to go underneath it for a deeper penetration than in most other positions. If the receiver is getting it anally, it can straighten out the anal canal for a similarly deeper penetration.

Cushion Up

Doggy style can be a bit tough on your joints. Consider putting pillows under either partner's knees, or even under the receiver's hips, so that they can still relax and enjoy the angle while getting it on.

You Aren't At Any Greater Risk From UTIs

Some believe you're more likely to contract a urinary tract infection if you do it doggy. That's simply not true. Sex in general exposes a female-bodied person with a higher likelihood of UTI. UTIs occur when bacteria is exposed to the urethra. Women have much shorter urethras than men, making infections easier to contract. UTIs can be very painful and require being treated by antibiotics. Regardless of any positions practiced, pee afterwards to wash away any potential bacterial exposure.”

It's Not Submissive

Fact of the matter is that this position feels great for a lot of people because, physiologically, it can hit a lot of the right spots. You don't have to give up any control to enjoy doggy style from the bottom.

Spanking Anyone…?

Smacking dat ass is not mandatory! Ask before you spank. If the question is answered with a responding and enthusiastic 'Yes,' then spank away!

Switch Things Up

So often, doggy style is portrayed as the someone pounding away at their partner from behind, but it doesn’t have to be that way! Back that ass up! Bounce, pop, swing, and roll your hips. Your partner will love it. Plus, all that movement churns your pelvic floor muscles, giving you added stimulation. Or lower your body so that you’re laying on your stomach for a slow grind instead of a deep thrust.

It Can Be Cosy

Doggy Style can be intimate. It’s a vulnerable position, and can imply a certain amount of surrender and trust. Your partner can kiss your back, neck, and shoulders, and whisper lovely things in your ear.

Just Like Yoga

There’s a reason we do the Cat/Cow positions in yoga (and why someone always giggles through them). Being on your hands and knees allows your hips to open, and can release lower back tension. Add sexual pleasure to that … win-win!

And if all of the above doesn’t make you wanna do it like they do on the Discovery Channel, there is the bonus of multi-tasking. Banging and boxset binging - the ultimate Netflix and chill!

4 Bondage Tips For Beginners So You Will Rarely Need a Safe Word

Bondage is not just for the BDSM lovers out there, it’s for anyone who wants to add a bit of spice to their sexy time. Bondage may be a factor of BDSM but the belief that it is only used during this kind of setting is a misconception, however it can be a gentle introduction into the BDSM lifestyle. Here’s our guide to safety when considering beginner’s bondage.

In Charge or Under Control?

You need to discuss what you want out of bondage with your partner. Is domination your kind of thing and they want to surrender to you? Or perhaps you both like the thought of being tied up and taken advantage of, in which case you need to take turns? Where will your kinky play take place? The bedroom? The kitchen? Your back garden? What will you use for creating the knots? You need to prepare for everything, not only to make sure you get the most out of your kinky time but also to keep yourselves safe.

Safe is the New Sexy

Be particularly careful on deciding on where to have your fun. Tying someone up in a steamy shower could be fantastically erotic but their hands are no longer free to catch and balance themselves. Your kitchen floor could be a majorly horny place to get down to it but there’s the obvious array of sharp, heavy utensils, moving drawers and countless other dangerous items in your kitchen — well not just your kitchen but every room. Survey your prospective play area and safe-proof everything before having your fu, as one of you will be at a disadvantage when tied up and unable to react quickly to any mishap.

Silk Appeal

The material you use is best kept as something soft, flexible and easily accessible for starting out. You might want to go full on and buy a bunch of rope to hogtie your partner with, but you need to transition into it before you get to that stage. Something you have at home like a tie or stockings are perfect for beginners’ bondage as they’re forgiving on the skin and you already have them, so if you’re not keen on tying one another up after trying it, you haven’t wasted any money. Then, once you are both comfortable, you can move on to other materials such as ropes. Keep in mind that there’s going to be some back and forth movement, and with a tougher material like rope on skin that isn’t used to such treatment there could be injuries if you do not do things right. Also try not to use anything of value to tie them up just in case of an emergency where you need to cut their ties in a hurry.

Always Have a Safe Word

Bondage can be a very part of role playing. Always make sure that you and your partner have agreed on a safe word before playing. This must be something unusual that would not normally be said. So whether it is ‘Mugglewump’, ‘Marmite’ or ’Margaret Thatcher’, make sure you have it sorted

Bondage can be great fun, it gives extra sensation to the person tied up as their body is producing extra adrenaline as a natural response to being restrained. Even though they’ve chosen this, it’s what humans have evolved to do when suddenly not in control of their own bodies. So more adrenaline, more blood rushing to the genitals and erogenous areas leading to fantastic sex and higher intensity orgasms. Now that we’ve given you the science and the theory, it’s time to take the practical.

What Does Your Star Sign Say About You When it Comes to Sex?

Even if you read your weekly horoscope for fun, you might roll your eyes at the concept of astrological compatibility. But what if great sex is written in the stars, and "hey baby, what's your sign?" doesn't deserve its corny reputation?

If you're looking to achieve off-the-charts chemistry (aren't we all?) with a lover, it certainly can't hurt to consult the astrological charts. Discover your best bedroom chemistry with our guide to the stars and what takes them to cosmic climax.

Aries March 21 – April 19

The Ram is a take-charge kind of lover, self-confident to the extreme and loves to experiment. Be forewarned the Ram has an unquenchable thirst for sex and if you aren't able to keep up, it might become a sore spot.

Taurus April 20 – May 20

Taureans have a strong sex drive and love to touch and to be touched. The Bull is very self-assured as a lover, although they might be considered a little old-fashioned by some. Expect the Taurus to satisfy you, but don't expect anything too unconventional.

Gemini May 21 – June 21

The Twins are masters of seduction. Your Gemini lover will stimulate your mind and your body, and because of this sign's creativity, your Twin will never be boring between the sheets. The Twins will never fall into the rut of the same ol' thing over and over again, so you'll always be surprised!

Cancer June 22 – July 22

Many Crabs are somewhat submissive sexually and enjoy pleasing their lover with tenderness and soft, lingering touches. Don't be surprised if your Cancer lover offers you a back rub or massage as part of foreplay!

Leo July 23 – August 22

Leos are powerful in bed, and many are dominant by nature. They have amazing sexual energy and confidence and have the innate ability to lead even reluctant lovers into the throes of passion. The Lions are generous in bed, but they expects to get at least as much as he gives.

Virgo August 23 – September 22

Virgo is the "still water that runs deep." In other words, once you get underneath Virgo's calm surface, there's plenty of fiery passion underneath. They take very good care of their lovers in bed, showering them with their full attention.

Libra September 23 – October 22

Because of Libra's creativity , and fun-loving nature, a Libra lover will provide lots of sexual enjoyment to the right partner. Libras are very creative and enjoy playing out their sexual fantasies, including role playing.

Scorpio October 23 – November 21

Scorpios exude a powerful animal magnetism and a special sex appeal that's practically impossible to ignore. They have boundless libido, and a Scorpio lover can take you to heights of passion you never thought possible.

Sagittarius November 22 – December 21

Archers are imaginative in bed and like to be sure their lover is enjoying themself. It's often difficult to get a Sagittarius to commit to a long-term relationship, but for sexual fulfillment, this sign is hard to beat.

Capricorn December 22 – January 19

For the Goat, love and sex often go hand in hand. If a Capricorn cares for you, you will have no trouble arousing them to passionate sex. If you seek a kind, steady lover, Capricorn is for you.

Aquarius January 20 – February 18

Aquarians are all about physical passion, with or without an actual relationship. They enjoy experimenting in bed and are often considered "kinky." If you're open to trying new things in the bedroom, you won't be disappointed with the Water Bearer.

Pisces February 19 – March 20

Pisceans are very easygoing and receptive to their lover's advances, so if you want to be the aggressor, Pisces might be just the fish you're angling for!

9 Epic Sex Fails That Made Love Hurt - Literally!

We all get used to the occasional bruise, scratch and cramp when it comes to having a good time in the bedroom. They say ‘Love Hurts,’ but sometimes sex lands lovers in A&E. Prepare to cringe and crack up after reading these true, naughty stories. Rubber ball stuck where the sun doesn’t shine anyone? Behold, the wildest sex fails we’ve ever heard.

Wall-Breaking Sex

When a 440lb virgin decided to take things to the next level with his 110lb lover, things tragically ended with him accidentally driving her head right through the room’s sheet-rock wall. The two went to hospital where the female was ultimately told by doctors that she had a concussion. The couple stayed together for a few months after the incident, but have since called it quits.

Safety First

A doctor in india was mystified when a female patient complained of having a serious cough, runny nose and fever for over half a year. She’d been put on various medications, but nothing seemed to help. So, fearing the worst, they ran some hospital tests…and realised she had a condom lodged inside her lungs. Apparently, she’d inhaled it during an ‘act of love’, without actually realising it (how does this happen?). But hey, at least she was having safe sex.

Heart-Stoppingly Good Sex

A young guy and his girlfriend decided to get it on in his grandmother’s basement while she was out of the house. They grabbed a tube of what they thought was lubricant from her well-stocked medicine cabinet. Unfortunately it was nitroglycerin paste, a heart drug that can cause a potentially fatal drop in blood pressure. When Grandma came home, she found the couple unconscious, buck naked, and lying in a rather saucy position. An ambulance was called and they eventually came to after being given oxygen and fluids. So all ended well…other than the look on Grandma’s face!

A Hard Act to Follow

A 20-year-old man - reportedly healthy and sober at the time - was hospitalised with complaints of severe rectal discomfort. A digital examination revealed a hard, stone-like mass, and the patient soon admitted he’d been fooling around with his partner and they had decided to pour concrete mix into…erm…you know where. The concrete was removed and the patient discharged the following day. Moral of the story: don’t…just don’t —well, unless you require a statue for your mantelpiece that will be a feature of intrigue and horror for future house guests.

Not-So-Good Vibrations

Oh those naughty knickers hey! A 33-year-old Welsh housewife was reported to have passed out at a supermarket. The reason? She had been ‘overcome’ by the vibrations of a pair of Naughty Passion Pants she was wearing underneath her clothes. she collapsed against some shelves and banged her head. As she lay there, spectators reportedly could hear the undies still buzzing.

Just…Ouch!

Men with slightly small appendages — just be grateful for what you’ve got. One Malaysian man thought his wasn’t big enough and decided to take drastic action. His solution? Stick his dingaling into a welding nut and try to stretch it. Sadly, he got stuck, Forcing doctors to remove the top layer of penis skin to free it. Yikes!

Definitely the Wrong Tool for the Job

A couple in America decided to ramp up their vibrator by attaching it to a power tool. An electric saw in fact! Ooooooooh nooooooo! The woman had to be rushed to hospital after it cut clean through the plastic toy. Thankfully she made a full recovery and would be unlikely to try that again.

Gotta Have Some Hot Stuff

Ever heard about drunken idiots snorting chilli? We definitely do not recommend doing this, but apparently the burning sensation is painfully intense due to the sensitive skin on the inside of your nose, called mucous membrane, which also lines your lips, ears and…wait for it… the genitals! Well one couple inadvertently spiced up their sex life when the man came home from a night out eating spicy, hot food and then engaged in saucy bedroom antics with his lady, only to accidentally burn her sensitive parts with his tongue.

What’s Up Doc?

A young couple rushed to hospital with this story: During sex the woman had grabbed a medium-sized rubber ball and inserted it into her man’s back door. The ball had become lodged so high in his rectum that they couldn’t get it out. It turned out that the doctor could not either! The doctor paged a surgeon, but whilst waiting for him to arrive, the man began coughing. The ball came flying out of his butt with enough velocity to ping around the room and hit the surgeon right in the forehead just as he came through the door. (I don’t know about anyone else but this one totally cracks me up!)

Most sexual activity ‘comes’ with the risk of something going wrong. Yep, you read that right, there is no such thing as having perfect sex. Just don’t go to these extremes hey folks. Have you ever had a sex-related injury? Tell us about it in the comments.

Sex in the Morning VS Sex at Night - When is the Best Time to Be Horny?

Blokes tend to wake up feeling amorous, while their partners get in the mood late in the evening - so why can't we synchronise our sex clocks?

So the saying goes, women are from Venus, men are from Mars, right? Well, it turns out that women and men are operating on completely different time zones as well.

According to a lot of research, it has been found that women are most interested in getting steamy between 11pm and 2am, while men are more frisky between 6am and 9am: the average time being 11:21pm for women, and 7:54am for men. Unfortunately, only a whopping 16% of men have been recorded to want sex before they sleep at night.

It doesn’t just come down to a simple: men have morning wood, and women want sex at night. Rather, there is some real science behind why women and men are on such opposite sex schedules, and why their appetites don’t always coincide with one another.

Women and men both produce testosterone, which is the heaviest influence for sex drive in our bodies:

A man produces the most testosterone before he even wakes up in the morning - anywhere between 25%-50% more than any other time throughout the day.

So, as the sun begins to rise, he’s already sending more juice to the engine for hen he opens his eyes.

Ladies, have you ever had mornings where your man’s boner just won’t leave you alone - yet all you can think about is sleep? This is totally normal.: women are at their lowest levels of testosterone in the morning. As the sun begins to go down, woman’s production increases - sadly just as men’s are decreasing. Curse you Mother Nature!!

A woman’s testosterone production also doesn’t fluctuate as severely throughout the day as a man’s does. men’s hormone levels increase and decrease immensely in a twenty four hour period, while women’s levels correlate more closely with their cycles.

Have you ladies noticed that you’re more horny about 2 weeks before your period is on it’s way? Well, here’s why: halfway through your cycle, you’re at your height of testosterone production: up to 30 times higher than at the start.

Another booster for testosterone - whether you are a man or a woman - is getting a sufficient amount of sleep. Sleep deprivation has been proven to significantly lower testosterone levels, simultaneously lowering sex drive.

So, guys, you wanna get some action in the AM? Make sure your lady is getting a good amount of shut-eye. Research shows that getting 5+ hours of sleep will raise a person’s sex drive by around 15%.

The old joke is that ‘Women need a reason to have sex and men just need a place.’ Funny enough, but not surprising by any means, research has concluded that even though men are more randy in the mornings, couples are most likely to have sex at night.

There are benefits to morning sex though, but that’s another article. ;-)