4 Bondage Tips For Beginners So You Will Rarely Need a Safe Word

Bondage is not just for the BDSM lovers out there, it’s for anyone who wants to add a bit of spice to their sexy time. Bondage may be a factor of BDSM but the belief that it is only used during this kind of setting is a misconception, however it can be a gentle introduction into the BDSM lifestyle. Here’s our guide to safety when considering beginner’s bondage.

In Charge or Under Control?

You need to discuss what you want out of bondage with your partner. Is domination your kind of thing and they want to surrender to you? Or perhaps you both like the thought of being tied up and taken advantage of, in which case you need to take turns? Where will your kinky play take place? The bedroom? The kitchen? Your back garden? What will you use for creating the knots? You need to prepare for everything, not only to make sure you get the most out of your kinky time but also to keep yourselves safe.

Safe is the New Sexy

Be particularly careful on deciding on where to have your fun. Tying someone up in a steamy shower could be fantastically erotic but their hands are no longer free to catch and balance themselves. Your kitchen floor could be a majorly horny place to get down to it but there’s the obvious array of sharp, heavy utensils, moving drawers and countless other dangerous items in your kitchen — well not just your kitchen but every room. Survey your prospective play area and safe-proof everything before having your fu, as one of you will be at a disadvantage when tied up and unable to react quickly to any mishap.

Silk Appeal

The material you use is best kept as something soft, flexible and easily accessible for starting out. You might want to go full on and buy a bunch of rope to hogtie your partner with, but you need to transition into it before you get to that stage. Something you have at home like a tie or stockings are perfect for beginners’ bondage as they’re forgiving on the skin and you already have them, so if you’re not keen on tying one another up after trying it, you haven’t wasted any money. Then, once you are both comfortable, you can move on to other materials such as ropes. Keep in mind that there’s going to be some back and forth movement, and with a tougher material like rope on skin that isn’t used to such treatment there could be injuries if you do not do things right. Also try not to use anything of value to tie them up just in case of an emergency where you need to cut their ties in a hurry.

Always Have a Safe Word

Bondage can be a very part of role playing. Always make sure that you and your partner have agreed on a safe word before playing. This must be something unusual that would not normally be said. So whether it is ‘Mugglewump’, ‘Marmite’ or ’Margaret Thatcher’, make sure you have it sorted

Bondage can be great fun, it gives extra sensation to the person tied up as their body is producing extra adrenaline as a natural response to being restrained. Even though they’ve chosen this, it’s what humans have evolved to do when suddenly not in control of their own bodies. So more adrenaline, more blood rushing to the genitals and erogenous areas leading to fantastic sex and higher intensity orgasms. Now that we’ve given you the science and the theory, it’s time to take the practical.